Ada palmer said in an interview, how to look at questions in a different way.
She asks is to do these.
A. Can you do something about the problem? Is there an actionable solution?
B. Can I get myself to stop worrying and let it go?
Can I laugh at the problem?
Can I ask myself weather this matter in a year or in five years?
These questions help us to find the tranquility in midst of out problems and see them in a different light.
Remember, build you inner citadel. Don’t let others to shake your inner peace and tranquility.
Remember that your mind is in your control. Not your body.
Things happen. Something we expect. Others we don’t. Some good. Some bad.
But what’s important to understand is that those are just things and it’s up to us to make it the way we want it to be.
Sorry of the horse and the farmer come to mind.
Marcus Aurelius wrote, “When you are distressed by an external thing, it’s not the thing itself that troubles you, but only your judgment of it. And you can wipe this out at a moment’s notice.”
So wipe it out.
Do what you can.
Control the things that are under your control.
The rest doesn’t matter.
Everything does not happen the way I want them to. Somethings are good and others bad, while some doesn’t make sense whatsoever.
However, what I should yearn to do, strive to do is to accept the situation and do my best for that.
I may be lucky or unlucky. But it is not a problem. I choose to do my best for the circumstances. Then face what comes. And do the best I can there too.
I can control the things that are under my control, which are not a lot.
I will control them and accept others, the things that are not under my control, as is.
I will Excel at what I do. The rest doesn’t matter to me.
Said Marcus Aurelius.
It does not matter what others do.
I will stand on my principals and do what your self would do. The moral compass.
Does not matter.
They are not under my control. May be they turn out be good. or bad. Or disaster. Or the best.
Does not matter.
Because I did the right thing.
I did a person of highest good would do.
I am on my path to become that person.
“If a person gave away your body to some passerby, you’d be furious. Yet you hand over your mind to anyone who comes along, so they may abuse you, leaving it disturbed and troubled – have you no shame in that?” —Epictetus
We have done some mistakes, bad decisions in our lives. If we get a do over, we may decide to change out decisions, now that we know the outcome of those.
However, we can’t change the past. It’s gone for good.
Only thing we can do is move forward.
Do better in the present and in the future. Learn from our past. Apply them. Make better decisions.
We must strive to be better in the future.
Think about our best self and take advice from him. Think what would he do. And do it.
The end of the road is that person with virtue. The highest good. But path starts from present. Follow the path.
We all have our faults. We make lots of mistakes. We do lot of selfish things without thinking how it affect others. We have our egos. We don’t like to apologize sincerely.
Does this make us bad people?
We made these mistakes. May be we do them in the future too.
However, we must try to be better. Try to do our best. Try to be honest. Try be the best person you can be.
We may fail. Over and over…
But if we have our own system of honor, we can always look back and improve ourselves. We could always look upon our best self and try to follow his or her path. We might get out time to time. That’s okay. Noticing that and getting back to the path is what matters.
To rise above our own mistakes to be better.
That’s what we must do.